Making Good Relationship Decisions
by Tyler Zach
I was standing in a room full of 30 girls feeling a little awkward. Unlike last year however, I had my beautiful wife Lindsey standing next to me. Having her present with me made this talk a lot easier.
My sister’s sorority, Chi-Omega, asked me to come into their chapter meeting again and talk about relationships. Dating and marriage is always on the minds of college students, especially girls.
Lindsey and I spoke of our past failures in relationships – hoping that these girls won’t do the same. The talk was less about how to find the perfect mate – and more about how THEY could become the perfect mate for someone else.
We shared that relationships are three-fold: physical, spiritual, and emotional. The relationship lie that most of them have bought into is this: If you have physical relations with a boyfriend, girlfriend, or with a random person on a random night – then it won’t affect you emotionally or spiritually.
We proceeded to give examples of how such a lie is not true. We wanted them to see that the physical effects the emotional, which in return effects the spiritual. This is a hard to take in for a girl who has led a promiscuous life with a sexual history. But, we offered a message of grace in that Jesus can heal us of all our sin at any time and renew our hearts, minds, and bodies.
Lindsey and I also shared that the spiritual side of our relationship was the thing that bonded us the most and that it was necessary in order to have a relationship that will last (on unconditional love).
Please pray that these girls would make good decisions in dating and see that “the one” must be a man who loves God with all of his heart. Pray that they have patience in dating and not give into the temptations of being promiscuous to get attention from the wrong men at college.
I was standing in a room full of 30 girls feeling a little awkward. Unlike last year however, I had my beautiful wife Lindsey standing next to me. Having her present with me made this talk a lot easier.
My sister’s sorority, Chi-Omega, asked me to come into their chapter meeting again and talk about relationships. Dating and marriage is always on the minds of college students, especially girls.Lindsey and I spoke of our past failures in relationships – hoping that these girls won’t do the same. The talk was less about how to find the perfect mate – and more about how THEY could become the perfect mate for someone else.
We shared that relationships are three-fold: physical, spiritual, and emotional. The relationship lie that most of them have bought into is this: If you have physical relations with a boyfriend, girlfriend, or with a random person on a random night – then it won’t affect you emotionally or spiritually.
We proceeded to give examples of how such a lie is not true. We wanted them to see that the physical effects the emotional, which in return effects the spiritual. This is a hard to take in for a girl who has led a promiscuous life with a sexual history. But, we offered a message of grace in that Jesus can heal us of all our sin at any time and renew our hearts, minds, and bodies.
Lindsey and I also shared that the spiritual side of our relationship was the thing that bonded us the most and that it was necessary in order to have a relationship that will last (on unconditional love).Please pray that these girls would make good decisions in dating and see that “the one” must be a man who loves God with all of his heart. Pray that they have patience in dating and not give into the temptations of being promiscuous to get attention from the wrong men at college.
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